Therapy for Couples

I believe our differences with others can be the source of both our greatest suffering and our greatest joy. Couples I work with often seek therapy because of challenges communicating across differences. For a variety of reasons - breaches of trust, histories of trauma, cultural differences, avoidance of conflict, or simply different communication styles - you may find you are not able to have the conversations you need to have to thrive. 

My approach to couple therapy focuses on helping each person take responsibility for themselves and, in the process, establish a clearer view of the other person. As a psychoanalytic psychotherapist, I am interested in what lies below the surface for each person and for the couple as a whole; but I also offer important hands-on help with communication skills, in order to clear the way for the things that need to be said. I will bring empathy, curiosity, humor, and gentle confrontation to our couple sessions as needed.

I help couples:

• Tolerate discomfort and find ways to remain connected during conflict

• Hold space for each other without becoming defensive

• Get to the root of recurring arguments

• Increase intimacy

• Differentiate from one another and respect one another’s differences

• Allow one another in and connect deeply through feelings

• Create a shared vision for the future

• Navigate stage of life transitions and related existential issues of life, death, meaning, and spirituality